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FanHouse's David Whitley cannot explain the concept of love to his children

Sep 21, 2010, 2:30 PM EDT

Last week I wrote of my distaste of the casual homophobia fostered by the Kiss Cam and some St. Louis fans’ desire to use it as a means of protest.  I missed this at the time, but David Whitley of FanHouse wrote about it on the same day. He took a bit of a different tack than I did:

I’d like to take the socially enlightened high road on this one, but I can’t help sympathizing with that father who’ll be sitting next to his son or daughter at Busch Stadium.

“Daddy, why are those two men kissing?”

“Umm, err, hey isn’t that Albert Pujols coming to bat?”

I just so happen to have a son and a daughter. If either of them asked me that question, the answer would be “because they love each other.”  Then again, maybe I just don’t appreciate all of the nuance of the allegedly complicated scenario Whitley has set up for us.

Kids understand love. It’s a pretty easy concept. What they may have a hard time understanding is being used as a rhetorical “think of the children” prop designed to hide the author’s deep, deep discomfort with homosexuality in an online column. Whitley:

Call me homophobic, but I just don’t think a 5- or 10-year-old brain is ready to tackle those complexities.

Fine. You’re homophobic.

And you know what kinds of complexities my five year-old has a hard time understanding? Unfairness. Like when his sister gets a toy and he doesn’t. Or when his friend gets a cookie but he doesn’t. And while it hasn’t come up yet, I can guarantee you that he’d have an equally hard time understanding why some folks get to marry the people they love and some people don’t. Indeed, the unfairness of that would be as plain as could be.

Wanna know hard? Try explaining to your kid the rationale behind such disparate treatment. I bet you can’t.  Not even to a five year-old.

  1. Jonny5 - Sep 22, 2010 at 8:44 AM

    Ummm, Why? My neighbors were in the back yard taking turns smacking a piniata around (about 10 grown men mind you) Yellin Bitch and princess and slapping eachothers butts. My son was 7 years old. I would rather be labeled a homophobe by you, than expose my 7 year old to that, whether the people were gay or hetero. Are you serious? After the boy went in I had to see what was in the pinata. tiaras. they were wearing them, it was cute…….. Oh, I have stories, the halloween party was another one. I went and got the Alpha of the couple a job working with me building parts for a solar power plant I was contracted for. I’d be working side by side with him for about 20 hours a week, no big deal. He was pretty cool.

  2. Jonny5 - Sep 22, 2010 at 9:00 AM

    In reference to labeling others in a negative way. It’s still hip to label people and look down on them. Just for different reasons now. I don’t like it. yes we’ve evolved to accept gays, that’s evolution, but we still do the same thing to others for speaking their mind, their opinion. The amount of this hasn’t lessened, we have just found other ways to do it and feel it’s acceptable. I only see it as acceptable if it’s 100% true. As in innocent until proven guilty. This guy hasn’t said or done anything that tells me he’s definatively against gay people. Is he uncomfortable about it in regards to explaining the whole nutshell to his children? Yes. That’s all I know from reading that.

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