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Probably more than you wanted to know about Brian Cashman’s extramarital affairs

Feb 2, 2012, 8:41 AM EDT

Cashman profile

Gawker/Deadspin’s A.J. Daulerio is not always the muckraker Gotham wants, but sometimes he’s the muckraker Gotham needs.

Wait, not sure we really need this, but it’s out there anyway and 800 readers will send me this throughout the day asking me to link it, so I link it: Daulerio tracked down Brian Cashman’s mistress. She’s fed up with the Yankees’ GM, reached out to his wife, and is basically opening up about it all.

Go for the story, stay for the picture of Cashman’s pajama pants. Oh, and on at least one tangential baseball point, the hearsay from the mistress in which she says that Cashman said that Jorge Posada was acting like a “spoiled brat” last season, presumably when he sat out of that game because Joe Girardi dropped him way down in the batting order.

Whether any of this is anyone’s business or newsworthy or whatever is an open question. On the one hand it all seems kind of unseemly, and apart from the Posada thing, has nothing to do with baseball. On the other hand, Cashman and a handful of other larger baseball figures are routinely covered by the baseball press for non-baseball things such as their charity work, their homes, and all manner of other things, so this is a balancing yin to all of that yang.

We link, you decide, then we all read it regardless of what we say about the morals and ethics of it all because deep, deep down we all like gossip and let’s not pretend we don’t.

  1. uyf1950 - Feb 2, 2012 at 8:44 AM

    Who gives a chit. That’s all I’m going to say about that article.

    • brucewaynewins - Feb 2, 2012 at 8:47 AM

      you gave enough chit to respond.

      • Old Gator - Feb 2, 2012 at 8:59 AM

        Bruce Wayne is not concerned about the poor.

  2. a125125125 - Feb 2, 2012 at 8:56 AM

    Are those Lou’s arms holding up the pajama pants? Egads.

    • proudlycanadian - Feb 2, 2012 at 9:21 AM

      I wonder if he gave her Jeter’s signed balls.

  3. Old Gator - Feb 2, 2012 at 9:02 AM

    Thanks, Craig. You just made it unnecessary for me to go to Publix this morning for my daily sliming when I pass the tabloid covers on the way through the checkout lane.

    • yankeesgameday - Feb 2, 2012 at 9:11 AM

      Publix reference. Nice. No Publix in cali. We have “Ralphs”

      • kopy - Feb 2, 2012 at 9:19 AM

        My only memories of Publix where visiting my Grandpa in Florida as a kid. I always thought he was a little weird for insisting to call it “Poo-blix” instead of a plural form of “Public.” Maybe he was right this whole time? I kinda doubt it.

      • Old Gator - Feb 2, 2012 at 9:38 AM

        I love Publix. It’s where I get my plastic bags, and it’s full of hot Latina chicks in shorts from the gym around the corner.

        I shop there a lot.

      • spindervish - Feb 2, 2012 at 9:51 AM

        Damn. I have definitely been going to the wrong Publix.

      • bobwsc - Feb 2, 2012 at 9:57 AM

        providers of Donnie’s makeshift urn in the Big Lebowski. we love you Ralphs!

    • hasbeen5 - Feb 2, 2012 at 9:59 AM

      Plastic bags? What kind of hippie are you?

      • Old Gator - Feb 2, 2012 at 10:05 AM

        I am a good and faithful hippie. I take them right home, pop some mescaline, and feed them to my sea turtles.

      • hasbeen5 - Feb 2, 2012 at 10:07 AM

        As long as they’re being used properly.

        I figured those canvas totes with the flamingos all over them would impress the scantily clad chicas though.

  4. badmamainphilliesjamas - Feb 2, 2012 at 9:14 AM

    Please let spring training start already!

    • Old Gator - Feb 2, 2012 at 9:32 AM

      Sadly, today is Groundhog Day and my beloved Stephanie Abrams just announced that Punxsutawney Phil emerged from his rathole this morning to pronounce negatively: six more weeks of weenter. So I guess it’ll have to be weenter training.

      Punxsutawney Phil is nothing but a morbidly obsese meerkat anyway.

      And I hate meerkats.

      • Old Gator - Feb 2, 2012 at 9:33 AM

        …obese.

        Edit function!
        Edit function!
        EDIT FUNCTION!

      • koufaxmitzvah - Feb 2, 2012 at 9:38 AM

        So six more weeks of 72 degree weather here in Central TX? Which is better than springtime, I guess, and it’s 90 degree weather. Of which the best part is during our 110 degree summers, looking back at May and saying, “Remember when it was only 90?”

      • Jonny 5 - Feb 2, 2012 at 10:09 AM

        We haven’t even HAD a winter yet here in NJ. It was 67 here yesterday. In February! I know it’s because I got the sled out and waxed it up early.. That little overweight Meerkat up at Gobblers Knob is out of his freaking mind if he didn’t emerge from his hole and stay out. Gobblers Knob, sounds like a porno title.

      • Gamera the Brave - Feb 2, 2012 at 11:37 AM

        J5,
        I think “Gobbler’s Knob” actually WAS an 19th century porno, but since there was no VHS back then (not even Betamax!), or even actual movies, it had to be performed live on stage.
        It was the dark underbelly of early vaudeville, that no one in the entertainment industry likes to talk about…

    • rollinghighwayblues - Feb 2, 2012 at 9:41 AM

      Sandy, amen to that. This weather is rocking. 60 in the morning and around 75 at sunset. Poetry in motion!

  5. randygnyc - Feb 2, 2012 at 9:24 AM

    She the one who sounds like a spoiled brat. Apparently, she’s disgruntled about not receiving enough for her services.

  6. yankeesgameday - Feb 2, 2012 at 9:26 AM

    There’s 8 million stories in the lonely city.

  7. skids003 - Feb 2, 2012 at 9:32 AM

    Craig, really? You are supposed to be a baseball blogger, not a tabloid writer. This has nothing to do with baseball, just a scorned woman. Please stay with the baseball and leave this to the National Enquirer or Rick Chandler.

    • rollinghighwayblues - Feb 2, 2012 at 9:36 AM

      Why do we see this type of comment about once a month? Did someone have a gun to your head and force you to navigate to HBT and read certain blogs? If you don’t like it here, just piss off, we won’t mind.

      • danrizzle - Feb 2, 2012 at 9:53 AM

        “If you don’t like it here, just piss off, we won’t mind”

        What an enlightened position you take! My bet is that skids actually does like it here, except when the coverage leaves the field or things relating to the field. Not sure why you’d need to turn nasty to skids just for putting his/her opinion out there.

        But that’s just danrizzle’s point of view.

      • hasbeen5 - Feb 2, 2012 at 10:02 AM

        He saw the headline, he could’ve skipped the post.

      • drmonkeyarmy - Feb 2, 2012 at 10:13 AM

        Danrizzle,
        I think “rollinghighwayblues” is merely stating that if the content of a particular thread is something one is not interested in, then perhaps that thread is better off left unread. I don’t read every thread on here only ones that I am interested in. Why take the time to comment on a blog post when you are just trashing the very nature of that particular blog post? Seems rather foolish if you ask me.

      • danrizzle - Feb 2, 2012 at 10:50 AM

        To the Dr.:

        Why take the time to post about it? Why take the time to post 15 comments defending Ryan Howard every time Craig makes a snarky comment about him? I think we the readership all care about HBT and its content, and we all have our views about what’s worthy of being published here. Some don’t like it when Ruben Amaro’s every comment is put to scrutiny; others, when the personal lives of public figures are placed in the public forum. I don’t know, it just offends good taste to some of us.

        And if highwayblues were to merely state that some threads are better left unread, then I wouldn’t have commented on it at all. It was the nastiness that brought danrizzle to his keyboard. That’s all.

        But hey, danrizzle’s been wrong before and maybe he’s wrong now.

      • drmonkeyarmy - Feb 2, 2012 at 10:55 AM

        If this were the 10th “Brian Cashman Bangs Skanks” post in recent memory then your point would be valid. I feel the obsessive need to defend Ryan Howard because I think the dialogue on him is not fair and balanced. I think he is unfairly portrayed as a scrub constantly. Whereas, in fact he is a good player who makes too much money. That is all. I think I got a tad off topic for a second. My point is, if this topic was posted repeatedly…by all means bash away. But it isn’t. So, why get up in arms about it?

      • spindervish - Feb 2, 2012 at 11:22 AM

        So your position is that your rather arbitrary threshold for when it is or is not appropriate to complain about the nature of the content on this blog is the one everyone else should observe?

        Ok then.

      • drmonkeyarmy - Feb 2, 2012 at 12:05 PM

        Yes…everybody needs to abide by my standards or I will unleash an army of wild monkeys targeting those who piss me off. Be afraid…be very afraid.

    • rollinghighwayblues - Feb 2, 2012 at 10:12 AM

      Dan, was I really being nasty? Give me a break. Craig, 98% of the time puts out quality work that is worthnreading. Let’s all remember, it’s February still. This type of “news” is to be expected when news is slow and everyone is pining for some live action. Let’s not crucify Craig for putting up work that will get tons of clicks because if you remember, all of the most trafficked threads last year were tabloid-esque type of posts.

      • danrizzle - Feb 2, 2012 at 10:44 AM

        Well, it can’t be controversial that “just piss off” is nasty.

        I agree that 98% of the stuff on HBT is good quality; that’s why I read. But that doesn’t mean that a comment like skids’ isn’t an acceptable thing when someone like skids doesn’t agree that the subject of a HBT post is publish-worthy. I think of it like this: skids’ comment was like a letter to the editor of a newspaper. It isn’t outrageous for someone to submit a letter to the editor if he or she thinks that a certain story is being tastelessly reported or shouldn’t be reported at all. If I were to write such a letter to the editor of my paper, and signed it “danrizzle” with my address, I would hope not to get a bunch of mail from other subscribers telling me “you don’t like the paper? Don’t subscribe! And please piss off.”

        Nobody’s crucifying Craig. It’s just that some of us among the HBT readership find this post (and the Deadspin article it links to) to be in pretty bad taste.

        That’s how danrizzle sees it anyway.

      • Utley's Hair - Feb 2, 2012 at 10:50 AM

        The title pretty much spelled out the subject matter of the post rather well. Nobody forced you to open it. And even if somebody did force you to click on the link, I’m pretty sure you could have faked reading it.

      • Gamera the Brave - Feb 2, 2012 at 11:46 AM

        danrizzle,
        I am becoming increasingly disoriented by your waffling between the first and third person, when referring to yourself.

        This problem is distracting me from the content of your posts – with which I agree.

        That’s how Gamera sees it anyway.

    • rollinghighwayblues - Feb 2, 2012 at 10:12 AM

      Dan, was I really being nasty? Give me a break. Craig, 98% of the time puts out quality work that is worthnreading. Let’s all remember, it’s February still. This type of “news” is to be expected when news is slow and everyone is pining for some live action. Let’s not crucify Craig for putting up work that will get tons of clicks because if you remember, all of the most trafficked threads last year were tabloid-esque type of posts.

      • stlouis1baseball - Feb 2, 2012 at 4:40 PM

        When people refer to themselves in the 3rd person I find it incredibly difficult to take anything they say seriously.

  8. screename529 - Feb 2, 2012 at 9:38 AM

    Even putting aside the obvious non-story that is a separated man having sex with women (the horror!), how would the Posada thing even be a story? You’re telling me Yankees management was unhappy with Posada last year?!? First I heard!

  9. 3greenowls - Feb 2, 2012 at 9:38 AM

    Craig, have you looked to see if HardballGossip.com is registered?

    Seriously man, what do you think Cashman and the Yankees’ reaction to posting this will be? Do you think they’ll ignore the fact you’re associated with NBC? What about MLB? They love stuff like this!

    Posting information like this is what Deadspin does but I guess there’s an untapped market for TMZing baseball.

    Makes me think, I don’t read TMZ…I don’t read Deadspin…I’m sure you can follow the logical progression.

    Good luck man. This was an awesome website with insightful commentary for a longtime.

    • drmonkeyarmy - Feb 2, 2012 at 10:10 AM

      Seriously? Anybody, is this comment truly meant to be taken seriously?

    • Utley's Hair - Feb 2, 2012 at 10:43 AM

      Everybody, please…a moment of silence for the apparent loss of a couple of readers who don’t like to be subjected to reading, and therefore commenting on HBT posts which are titled in such a way as to hide their veiled tabloidesque subject matter. They will surely be missed. Cue TAPS…. :(

    • churchoftheperpetuallyoutraged - Feb 2, 2012 at 12:11 PM

      I don’t read Deadspin

      Shame, Deadspin does a lot more indepth sports reporting on serious issues than any other major sports site. They also post dong shots.

  10. bobwsc - Feb 2, 2012 at 9:56 AM

    what was the wife’s take on his love-fest with Theo Epstein?

  11. bloodysock - Feb 2, 2012 at 10:08 AM

    What a difference a day makes. Yesterday we get a gem studded underwear pic of Giselle and today we get Cashman’s pajama bottoms from TJ Maxx.

  12. realgone2 - Feb 2, 2012 at 10:14 AM

    Women….can’t live with ‘em….the end

  13. sportsdrenched.com - Feb 2, 2012 at 10:18 AM

    It’s awesome that posting gossip in a baseball blog is more of an outrage than audultry.

    • Utley's Hair - Feb 2, 2012 at 10:53 AM

      Meh…the adultery part is really only the business of Cashman, his wife and his um…er…friend.

  14. mightymike1250 - Feb 2, 2012 at 10:19 AM

    What evidence do we have of this, other than the so-called mistress’ say-so?

    • baseballisboring - Feb 2, 2012 at 6:00 PM

      One Night In Cashman? God that sounds awful…

  15. yankeesfanlen - Feb 2, 2012 at 10:20 AM

    Leave Cashman Alone!
    And when I visit warmer-than-Jersey climes, I prefer Food Lion or the dreaded Piggly-Wiggly.
    A belated thanks to Al Gore for providing Bergen County with adequate temperatures, your election might have resulted in glacial formations on my driveway.

    • snowbirdgothic - Feb 2, 2012 at 10:43 AM

      Haven’t seen a Piggly Wiggly here in Cackalacky in years. It’s a shame, really.

    • hasbeen5 - Feb 2, 2012 at 1:41 PM

      Food Lion blows

  16. El Bravo - Feb 2, 2012 at 10:23 AM

    “Dark Knight feelin’, die you be a hero, or live long enough to see yourself become the villain”

  17. 89seminole - Feb 2, 2012 at 10:23 AM

    How did George Costanza get a mistress?

  18. lardin - Feb 2, 2012 at 12:58 PM

    See, Derek Jeter is the smartest rich person in the world, Hes still single. No one gives him grief when he jumps up and down the list of the Maxim Top 100

  19. bigleagues - Feb 2, 2012 at 1:05 PM

    I have always liked Deadspin. It has a solid place in the media landscape.

    But I’ve got a major problem with Deadspin and specifically Daulerio on this one.

    I think he has lost sight of that elusive line in the sand. There is nothing that really relates to baseball in all of this except that Cashman is employed by a MLB team.

    What he does for charity or public appearances on behalf of the team is the not lynch pin by which his personal life (where nothing seems to be of public import) becomes open for exposure without his consent.

    • Chris Fiorentino - Feb 2, 2012 at 1:16 PM

      “There is nothing that really relates to baseball in all of this except that Cashman is employed by a MLB team. ”

      The Penn State football program was dragged through the mud even though the Sandusky scandal had NOTHING to do with football and Jerry Sandusky wasn’t even employed by the team.

      • churchoftheperpetuallyoutraged - Feb 2, 2012 at 1:36 PM

        Sandusky was a former coach with Penn State, and many believed he was the successor in waiting for Paterno in ’98 when the first set of allegations came out. He also used his ties to the team, even after leaving, to run a football camp at Penn State to continue abusing kids. It has/had everything to do with that program.

      • badmamainphilliesjamas - Feb 2, 2012 at 2:14 PM

        Sorry, church, none of the innuendo you cite is actually supported by the facts. Not blaming you, though–the reporting on this has been abysmal.

      • stlouis1baseball - Feb 2, 2012 at 4:46 PM

        Church: Everyone thought it was a little odd that Sandusky left when he did.
        “Everyone” includes myself, my buddies and all the Penn State fans I/we know.
        Could he have finally decided that Paterno wasn’t going to retire? Sure.
        But I think he would have known that was the case far earlier than this.
        It was obvious to everyone Joe wasn’t going anywhere.
        Sandusky was considered by many to have the premier defensive mind in the business.
        For him to leave when he did certainly raised a huge amount of questions.
        This is just my opinion only…but since all this came out…the possible reason(s) for him leaving as early as he did seems a little clearer.

      • churchoftheperpetuallyoutraged - Feb 2, 2012 at 11:10 PM

        Sorry, church, none of the innuendo you cite is actually supported by the facts

        What innuendo? Line by line here we go:

        Sandusky was a former coach with Penn State

        True

        and many believed he was the successor in waiting for Paterno in ’98 when the first set of allegations came out

        I guess the first part of the sentence was hypothetical, in that it never happened. However it’s entirely true that he resigned/retired in ’99 while a grand jury investigation was ongoing. The unfortunate part is the prosecuting attorney at the time disappeared so the investigation ceased.

        He also used his ties to the team, even after leaving, to run a football camp at Penn State to continue abusing kids

        According to court papers, Sandusky had been having a relationship involving “inappropriate touching” with Victim 1 since 2005 or 2006, when the boy was 11 or 12. Sandusky had met the boy through the Second Mile program before retiring from the program in 2010

        http://www.pennlive.com/midstate/index.ssf/2011/03/jerry_sandusky_former_penn_sta.html

      • bigleagues - Feb 3, 2012 at 1:50 PM

        Holy Shit! Can’t believe:

        1) My comment about Brian Cashman is somehow linked to Jerry Sandusky

        2) That a Sandusky flame war has erupted under a comment about Brian Cashman.

        3) That ANYONE could possibly find reasonable parallels between Sandusky & Cashman based on the known facts.

        Let’s get this clear: Sandusky’s alleged (emphasis comical at this point) SEXUAL ASSAULT’S ON ADOLESCENT BOYS does not equate in any way shape or form whatsoever to ALLEGED marital infidelity of a MLB GM.

        Jerry Sandusky is among the lowest scum known to humankind and Penn State’s EX-leadership aided and abetted an alleged child molester.

        To ALLEGE otherwise is either due to willful ignorance or a perverse sense of sympathetic kinship with Sandusky. Sorry Penn State fans – them’s the facts. DEAL WITH IT.

        I’m still waiting for Deadspin’s promised follow-ups. Me thinks Daulerio is busy right now editing those follow-ups with Legal at his side.

        I am defending Brian Cashman as a 35-year fan of the Boston Red Sox. In my encounters with Brian Cashman he was nothing but gracious and cordial. In fact, ask ANYONE around MLB what they think of Cashman – on or off the record . . . I’m willing to bet a disparaging word will be very difficult to come by.

        As it stands right now, this appears to be a MAJOR BUNGLE by Daulerio’s Deadspin.

  20. IdahoMariner - Feb 2, 2012 at 1:59 PM

    Ok, Craig, I don’t know why I care, because I am ambivalent about Aquaman…but I was reading this interview on the A.V. Club with Diedrich Bader, and he was asked about his voice work as Batman in Batman, the Brave and the Bold, and he mentioned Aquaman, and I thought of you. And you mention in this post that you expect to get linked about Cashman, so I thought it would be fun if you got linked about Aquaman instead:
    http://www.avclub.com/articles/diedrich-bader,68685/2/
    maybe checking out this episode would resolve some of your aqua-hostitlity

    AVC: If pressed, could you pick a favorite episode?
    DB: You know, I’m barely in it, but I love “Mayhem Of The Music Meister.” It’s very audacious, but I think it really paid off, and it’s really, really cool. And I love any episode that’s got Bat-Mite in it, but especially the first one. It’s a portrayal that was very exclusive to our show, and we could take it in directions that were… not necessarily groundbreaking, but certainly novel. And, I thought, very cool. So yeah, I have a lot of favorite episodes. I have a lot of favorite characters, too. I loved Aquaman. 
    AVC: Voiced by John Di Maggio. 
    DB: Voiced by John Di Maggio, who’s hilarious in it. And the way they took Aquaman was so different than any other Aquaman, where he’s normally kind of a boring character. Yeah, I really loved doing that show. I was very sad when it went away. But that’s one of the things with Warner Brothers. They turn things over quickly, because they don’t want anything to get stale. Which I respect. And it definitely ended on a high note. 

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