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Brian Cashman’s wife files for divorce

Feb 4, 2012, 10:42 AM EDT

Brian Cashman

This whole topic definitely pushes the boundaries of what we’re willing to talk about here at HardballTalk, as it’s only relevant because Brian Cashman is the general manager of the New York Yankees, but since we’ve followed the ugly and bizarre situation regarding his alleged extramarital affairs this week, it only makes sense that we also pass this story along.

According to Liz Sadler, Jeane Macintosh and Dan Mangan of the New York Post, Cashman’s wife has filed for divorce.

The wife of Yankees general manager Brian Cashman filed for divorce yesterday — a day after her husband was publicly accused of a second affair, this time with a woman who has been charged with shaking him down, The Post has learned.

Mary Cashman, 42, submitted divorce papers in Stamford, Conn., Superior Court, listing her husband as “B.M. Cashman” and writing that the marriage “has broken down irretrievably.”

She is seeking permanent alimony, a split of their property, and joint custody of their 13-year-old daughter and 8-year-old son.

Mary Cashman, who has now endured two publicly humiliating allegations of her husband’s philandering, has been living apart from Brian Cashman in the family’s $3.7 million Darien mansion with the kids, sources said.

She hired top divorce counsel Gaetano Ferro, who repped Jane Welch during her half-billion-dollar split from former GE boss Jack Welch.

And with that out of the way, let’s move on to some actual baseball news.

  1. bleed4philly - Feb 4, 2012 at 11:15 AM

    Next topic.

  2. bigleagues - Feb 4, 2012 at 11:17 AM

    How about this: you, Craig and the others CHOOSE to NOT post about this subject. Seriously, there are a multitude of story lines and/or insightful articles that you don’t CHOOSE to post or comment about – each day.

    Seriously. This is HARDBALL TALK not HEARTBAWL TALK.

    • uyf1950 - Feb 4, 2012 at 11:36 AM

      bigleagues, very appropriate post on your part. The topic presented here by D.J. Short is more appropriate for the isles at the checkout counters of your local supermarket.

      • bigleagues - Feb 4, 2012 at 11:59 AM

        Thank you.

        I would add that even the NY Post knows the difference . . . there are 0 sports reporters working on this story.

    • bigleagues - Feb 4, 2012 at 12:18 PM

      I’d love to invite some of Down Thumbers to elaborate on their disapproval of my viewpoint.

      I’d LOVE to hear their justifications for airing the dirty laundry of a baseball executive when there is no identifiable baseball story attached to it.

      • brewcrewfan54 - Feb 4, 2012 at 12:32 PM

        I thumbs downed it because of the “heartbawl” thing. I thought that was lame.

      • dondada10 - Feb 4, 2012 at 2:51 PM

        I didn’t thumbs down, but I can understand why HBT runs this story. On the surface, it’s because there’s a baseball connections. Below the surface, they ran the story for the hits it’s receiving.

        Remember when Craig ran the “most hits of 2011” post? The top 3 had to do with death, not baseball. It is what it is. It’s like complaining about rubber-neckers, then rubber-necking yourself. We’re the age of sensationalism.

      • ricofoy - Feb 4, 2012 at 5:58 PM

        Well pal, if you go to ESPN and CNNSI both have this story on their home page. You’re in the minority. Is that justification enough for you?

    • ricofoy - Feb 4, 2012 at 6:01 PM

      Name one

  3. jckid21 - Feb 4, 2012 at 11:21 AM

    Shocker. Guy cheats on wife, wife files for divorce. This is groundbreaking news.

    • Old Gator - Feb 4, 2012 at 4:49 PM

      I think I’m going to pull out my DVD of The War of the Roses and enjoy a gush of pure bile in its native environment. Buddha willing, there won’t be any gratuitous mention of baseball in it.

  4. patg1041 - Feb 4, 2012 at 11:24 AM

    Permanent alimony? That sucks. I’d imagine in a case like this, the temptation to knock her off has got to be strong.

    • churchoftheperpetuallyoutraged - Feb 4, 2012 at 12:12 PM

      If you make $500,000, and your wife wants half, you aren’t going broke. But if you make $30,000, and your wife wants $15,000, you just might have to kill her. I’m not moving back in with my moms because you ain’t in love. Now I’m not saying OJ should have done it, but I understand.
      -Chris Rock

  5. yankeesfanlen - Feb 4, 2012 at 11:44 AM

    Josh Hamilton this, Brian Cashman that. Why do they use human beings in the baseball industry when stats are so much more fun (supposedly) ?
    As is always the case, I hope both of them have a few good friends and family to support them because they are not despicable, and other than that I will mind my own business.

    • Ari Collins - Feb 4, 2012 at 11:55 AM


    • bigleagues - Feb 4, 2012 at 12:15 PM

      The argument can be made that Hamilton is a baseball story because: he typically falls off the wagon in public, contract negotiations and because if he falls off the wagon, his loss has a noticeable effect on the team.

      Cashman doesn’t play. And prior to the rather lame (and journalistically absent) attempt at grabbing headlines by Daulerio, it seemed that Cashman was managing his personal affairs just fine.

      • Utley's Hair - Feb 4, 2012 at 3:51 PM

        For “typically” to be appropriate, your statement would require more than two previous instances.

    • Old Gator - Feb 4, 2012 at 4:52 PM

      Len: we’re only a generation away from being rid of these troublesome carbon-based units – who are only good for fleshing out our hot stove league teams anyway – and watching teams made up entirely of idoru. Computers can generate random episodes like hamstring pulls, rotator cuff tears and home-plate collisions with performance being impacted by digital concussions.

      And the right-wing neanderthals who occasionally infest this place will be thrilled to be rid of the union. too.

  6. crpls - Feb 4, 2012 at 12:52 PM

    If you don’t like the content of blog you don’t have to read it. They can post whatever stories they want; it’s their blog, not yours.

    • yournuts - Feb 4, 2012 at 2:40 PM

      This is a baseball blog Einstein and it should remain that way. If you want to read trash then read the National Enquirer.

      • Utley's Hair - Feb 4, 2012 at 3:57 PM

        Craig has said repeatedly that this is a blog that usually centers on baseball, and not a baseball blog, per se. It deals with baseball related topics, which Cashman’s employment satisfies. Do I like reading about other people’s personal lives? Not usually. Do I read every post on HBT? No. Maybe you need to skip the ones which are titled (pretty doggone clearly, I might add) as something you would not like to read.

  7. drewzducks - Feb 4, 2012 at 12:53 PM

    Hilarious…with any luck the philanderer will be able to unload 50% of the hideous A-Roid, Derek (will you sign my baseball) and Burnett’s contracts on his soon to be ex.

  8. jeffrp - Feb 4, 2012 at 1:12 PM

    Hardballtalk willing jumped down to wallow into this mud pit and now you want us to believe you’re only doing it as you hold your nose and want to “move on to some actual baseball news”. Maybe you should have thought about that before hand.

  9. yettyskills - Feb 4, 2012 at 1:42 PM

    A major and well known rule of internet posting is you do not bring up chick related posts without pics.

    Get pics of the soon to be ex and the mistress or don’t post these stories.

    • pellypell - Feb 4, 2012 at 7:34 PM

      Seen pics of both, Cashman pulled a Tiger and downgraded.

  10. Panda Claus - Feb 4, 2012 at 2:25 PM

    This isn’t meant to be a shot at anybody at all, but given where the 2011 season ended things have taken quite a turn.

    Who’d have thought this back in October?
    Theo Epstein’s offseason >>> Brian Cashman’s offseason

  11. yournuts - Feb 4, 2012 at 2:38 PM

    What a waste of time and space that Brian Cashman’s children have to read about this stuff in a public forum. This is not baseball news and what if someone wrote about D.J. Short’s divorce or some other crap here instead? Is anything not off limits? This is just pure trash and mud slinging. this writer has no business posting the Cashman’s family dirty laundry which has nothing to do with baseball. He ought to be ashamed of himself.

    • Utley's Hair - Feb 4, 2012 at 3:59 PM

      My guess is that anybody in Cashman’s family would think better than to read about his trials and tribulations on a blog. Any blog. All they’d have to do is read the title before clicking on the link and reading it. Kinda like you could have done.

    • kinggw - Feb 4, 2012 at 4:37 PM

      Ashamed for what? I bet you wouldnt say that if this story was regarding Barry Bonds, A-rod, or Steve Phillips.

      The general manager of one of baseball’s most prestigious teams went and got himself in hot water. He did something that may be a distraction all season long, depending on how this plays out. This is a baseball story. Dont be so naive. If Kuroda or Pineda dont work out, what do you think the first thing NY sportswriters are going to cite as Cashman’s reason for making decisions during the offseason?

      As far as Cashman’s children are concerned, he wasnt too concerned otherwise he wouldn’t have been doing what he was doing . He deserves no sympathy.

    • ricofoy - Feb 4, 2012 at 5:05 PM

      If daddy had kept it in his pants they wouldn’t have to worry about reading it anywhere.

  12. ricofoy - Feb 4, 2012 at 4:57 PM

    Who would have thought the little dweeb Cashman was a playa? Go get’em stud!

    • Old Gator - Feb 4, 2012 at 6:55 PM

      Don’t you mean go get ’em Tiger?

  13. bigdicktater - Feb 4, 2012 at 4:59 PM

    Does anyone have Jane Welch’s phone number??

  14. ricofoy - Feb 4, 2012 at 5:04 PM

    Maybe the Post sportswriters aren’t covering the story but look under Yankee news and the first 3 stories are about guess who? The story fits in this forum.

  15. kcredneck - Feb 4, 2012 at 6:00 PM

    kill 2 morons with 1 stone, dump happy pants and a-rod

  16. ricofoy - Feb 4, 2012 at 6:05 PM

    Jeter just lost all his leverage if he hopes to get another contract. He can burn the pictures now.

  17. uscthom78 - Feb 4, 2012 at 11:03 PM

    Nothing surprise me about a gotti owned franchise. I hope the wife takes as much as possible from Cashdick.

  18. neelyisgod - Feb 5, 2012 at 5:09 AM

    So does this make Theo Epstein the best GM in the majors now?

  19. farvite - Feb 5, 2012 at 11:46 AM

    Not sure why anyone in the sports buiz get married.

    It couldn’t be more obvious what their *true* love is.

  20. ufullpj - Feb 5, 2012 at 11:53 AM

    The subject of marital infidelity is a personal and troublesome topic, and those that commit it are gutless losers.

    That being said, am I the only wondering if Cashman didn’t get busted for either having “relations” with the cleaning lady on his desk in his office…or, with the secretary, who, for some reason, is now making more than him?

    Again, not trying to make too much light of a very, very difficult personal situation, but at the same time, well, the irony is just too damn strong NOT to mention it…

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