Judgmental, soulless, gutless wonders like thebadguyswon claim they’re thinking about “his kids,” “his wife,” but what they really are doing are soapboxing on blood they’ve never known.

As someone who has been part of the wreckage left behind from a suicide, do me a favor, thebadguyswon. Shut the hell up. You. Know. Nothing.

Sure, let’s blame it all on mental illness, seems to be the buzzword of the season lately. (then again, I gotta figure most NRA card carrying members are pretty mental, but that’s another story).

Suicide. I don’t begrudge someone who needs to deal with their demons by checking out, but really, what purpose does it serve to splatter your brains all over your house? That’s just mean.

Please, everyone, re-read what she wrote and remember it. You just might save a life by doing what she said.

Being in the trenches with my sister in law has taught me a lot about something I knew very little about previously. Mental illness doesn’t discriminate. It can effect people despite race, gender, upbringing, education or religion. Although there are theories, I’m convinced it’s also genetic, although, of course, not every generation is effected.

What I most want to say is that regarding Freel, his family most certainly knew of his struggles. Serious mental illness can be hidden, but not from people who see you everyday. Besides from the occasional inappropriate remarks, you wouldn’t know my sister in law was ill. The fact is, she’s a functional invalid. She can’t even provide herself with the most basic necessities.

Many of these chemical brain imbalances can be corrected with medications. Unfortunately, once a balance is achieved, the person often believes the medication is no longer necessary. It becomes an insidious cycle. Very sad and very destructive. Our medical communities can’t force people to take medications (I’m not advocating that). I don’t have any answers. Just first hand, eyewitness observations (nearly 20 years).

You claim elsewhere to be thinking of his wife and kids. Don’t you think they are wondering that same question? Why did this happen? And if they are wondering, what is wrong with those who knew him exploring the dual sides he had? Rather than quote Jesse Ventura as your “expert” on mental health issues, why not contribute something useful. And if you are truly concerned about his wife and kids, don’t publish comments on the internter trashing theire husband/father. Who are you to judge?

I once volunteered for a suicide hotline and many of the callers truly believed that their loved ones would be better off without them. In the throes of their depression, they believed that what they were doing was actually a selfless act, to alleviate those around them of the burden of living with them. Of course, it makes no sense to us, but that’s part of the sickness.

Because they’re chemically unable, you half-wit. That’s why. Kinda of like me telling you to “just be empathetic” or “just be smarter.” That’s a totally useless exercise.

The great part about irony is it is lost on the stupid.

Now, Freel was actually ill, not in control of his responses to varying degrees. People that simply won’t change their responses due to stubbornness, lack of vision or empathy, or just plain being a prick/dumbass/scared little boy who can’t take criticism? Well, unlike Freel and his family, they deserve nothing but the ugliness that is their own small lives.

I feel for Ryan and his family. Suicide isn’t a person who checked out as far as I can see, it’s a person who lost. And it’s a pretty fucking sad loss.

http://deadspin.com/193311/ryan-freels-little-friend

I have a lot of sympathy for thebadguyswon up above us in the comments. Its been my experience that people who think that way are the ones that are left behind by someone who made the decision to end it all. Honestly, what else does one feel about someone who literally abandoned them? Freel’s children are going to be wondering that. Often they think “will I do this, too?” or even worse; “It was my fault”. I’ve seen a lot of anger towards the departed by loved ones. Mostly its anger covering up loss, fear and guilt. I wish this hadn’t happened, that’s all.